HypnoBirthing® Malaysia Shares a Touching Video
HypnoBirthing® – the Mongan Method is an International Program and we have women all over the world using the same techniques and preparation for their births. Birth doesn’t have borders, the body functions the same, whatever country you come from. We are so grateful to Catherine, Desmond, Brother Zachary, and Baby Yi Yang for sharing this incredibly touching video with us.
Written by Bee Ting (HypnoBirthing Malaysia practitioner)
Catherine attended class during her second pregnancy as she was seeking a better birth experience this time round.
She got her dream birth and this is her story.
A Gift from God:
“Pregnancy is a God-given duty for women; Therefore we should believe that ChildBirth is a Natural process as God has intended”
In 2010, I had a natural birth in the hospital. From that experience, I found that the birthing process is just about following a set of standard operating procedures. I remembered feeling very anxious as I entered that cold labor room. Under the glaring lights, the nurse strapped me to the bed, put on the fetal monitor and inserted the IV drip.
There I was, lying half-naked waist down, extremely embarrassed, legs spread out, waiting helplessly for my baby’s arrival. Needless to say, I felt like I had absolutely no control throughout the birth process.
Our babies have been enjoying the warmth and comfort of their mothers’ womb for nine months with only muffled sounds. However, when babies are born, we immediately thrust them into bright glaring lights, a noisy and chaotic environment with the air conditioning blasting cold air onto their delicate skin. As if that is not bad enough, we will almost immediately suction their throats and airways roughly, amputate their umbilical cord, take them away to another room for cleaning and weighing on a cold weighing machine.
I can only say that with the advancement of medicine, we have forgotten about empathy and compassion, how pathetic!
What is Birth really about? Childbirth should have been a natural, miraculous, privileged experience. However, now, childbirth has been invaded with so many medical equipment and drugs. Have we really gotten so lost? Birth has always been up to God’s bestowal and the willpower of Mother and Baby.
In 2012, my friend introduced me to HypnoBirthing® – The Mongan Method. Since I do not have a liking to hospital births, knowing about an alternative way to birth gave me a glimmer of hope. At the same time, as I was exploring Montessori education for my child, I found out that their philosophy also advocates gentle birth.
Finally, after a long wait, in January 2014, I became pregnant again.
With a firm belief in life, I managed to get my husband’s full support and we decided to attend HypnoBirthing® class (www.HypnoBirthingMalaysia.com) so that this child can be born naturally and gently.
Even though this is my second pregnancy, I cannot help feeling nervous with much anticipation for about 30-40 days before THE day arrives – October 15, 2014.
At about 6am, I saw some birth show and immediately yelled “YES!!!” in my heart. To be honest, the nervousness and excitement I felt then was just like candidates finally going into the examination hall after months of preparation. Two hours later, I began to feel some surges. So I immediately called my husband who was about to drop my son off in school and asked them both to come back.
After I ate a warm bowl of noodle soup prepared by my mother-in-law, I went back to my room, took a shower and got ready. Then my son and husband came home and we slowly enjoyed some yummy Nasi Lemak for breakfast.
Then preparation began. My husband started inflating the pool, filling it up with water and adjusting the water temperature by adding warm water. I, on the other hand, was in the room listening to the Rainbow Relaxation CD while doing my surge breathing (20sec in 20sec out). My mother-in-law was busy with her chores in the kitchen while my son alternated between playing with his LEGO and helping his father. He even said: “Soon I will be able to see what my brother looks like”!
Because of baby’s arrival, the whole family has united to work together as a team for his birth. I am sure baby felt it and can’t wait to be born into this wonderful family.
At one o’clock in the afternoon, my surges started to get stronger. I could feel a natural force that kept pushing from the inside out. Once the surges stopped, my husband would hand me some water, wipe my sweat and I would feel revived, ready to meet the next surge. My surges got closer and closer, from one every ten minutes to one every five minutes to one every minute. With the intensifying surges, I felt my willpower depleting. Just when I was about to give up, suddenly I heard this tiny voice inside me, as if my baby was saying, “Mummy, I am trying very hard here, you must not give up. Keep going!” So I started repeating this line in my heart as I met each surge, knowing that that was baby’s message to me.
At 4:10 p.m, the baby’s head was finally out. My husband reminded me to use the birth breathing technique taught in class to breathe the baby out and in just TWO minutes, baby slipped out completely!
Throughout the whole birth process, the person I need to thank the most is my husband. He has put in 100% effort and support. From inflating the pool to filling water, doing light touch massage & hip massage, controlling the water temperature and constantly reminding me to drink water, do the correct breathing, receiving the baby, wiping sweat, even after birth, washing the placenta and sprinkling rosemary powder on it for preservation, cleaning the pool, scrubbing the toilet, mopping the floor and so on.
And all I did was just focus on using my breaths to meet each surge.
For my elder son, he got to be involved in the entire birthing process, I believe that he has learnt a very important physiological lesson – that Birth is meant to be so Natural. Also another important lesson is that if in future, his teacher asks where babies came from, he wouldn’t answer that babies burst out from the rock or from the butt. HA HA HA!
Finally, a big thank you to Michelle Yeoh Choo Huey for providing me with a lot of advice and encouragement when I was pregnant.It was precisely from reading this sentence from one of her books that made me have this strong belief that Birth should be Natural.”Being born is a child’s first achievement. Please let babies go through the struggle of the natural birth process, so that they may embrace a lifetime of confidence.” Sakamoto Fujieda
Her beautiful video – http://vimeo.com/117544546
Disclaimer: HypnoBirthing® is a childbirth technique that you can use no matter where you choose to birth. We do not teach or advocate unassisted home births but we respect the fact that every mother has the right to choose how she wants to birth.